Christmas Blues...Just need to vent!!

[Petit Basque]

Good evening lovely geeks...

Well, the festive season is upon us once again and as always at this time of year, you get to spend far too much time with people you don't normally enjoy spending time with at all!!

This may sound like such a cliche but seriously, my mother in law is really getting me down. She's in her 80's and has never been an easy woman and we've all had to put up with a lot of unpleasantness from her over the last 25 years or so. My kids find her really hard work and although they are always really polite to her, they dread spending any time with her.

Anyway, one week before Christmas she has decided to kick off big time about something. I don't want to go into details here suffice to say that I am now really, completely and totally hacked off with her. My husband is "dealing with the situation" but I can tell you now that it won't go well as she hates it when anyone tries to stand their ground with her and I can only imagine what the atmosphere is going to be like when we go down and see her at Christmas

It's has really brought me down and believe me, it takes a lot to bring me down. I just feel so upset and frustrated and can't believe that anyone would want to create such a lot of upset at this time of year...it beggars belief really.:evil:

Why oh why are families so bl**dy difficult?? I am so fed up

PB
x

 

[mm29]

we have decided to have xmas on our own this year with our 3 little girls to enjoy every moment and no one to spoil it.

grin and bare it this year and make different plans next..

 

[sammi_xxx]

Don't let no body ruin your christmas, you don't have to like your mother in law.. because quite frankly who does?
You just have to smile and get on with it
Ignore her kicking off as your much better than her, and you have a wonderful family

 

[dandelionpoppy]

Unfortunately you can't change her.
Make a joke of it with your husband and family........maybe have a code word to use when she says something awful, and you can all have a little smile at each other. (I don't normally advise laughing at old ladies, but it's probably preferable to hitting her over the head with the Christmas tree )
Hope all goes well. x

 

[jacqueline]

Tell her if she continues the behavior you won't visit at Christmas or future Christmases, might make her think twice!!

 

[TracyS]

This may sound harsh but, so why are you going to see her?

Seriously, if she causes so much angst and your husband knows it causes as much upset as it does, call it a day, don't go down, send him on his own. No doubt you'll get something like "it's only 1 day", well yes, but it's only 1 day for you aswell so you should be allowed to enjoy it to it's fullest without worrying about some mean spirited or cantankerous member of the family.

That's my tuppence worth anyway.

Have a fabulous time with people who appreciate you!

xx