Do you do your kids homework ?

[pure]

It is 0 - its a trick question. Ha ha.

Took us a bit of head scratching - my friend who is a whizz at maths looked puzzled.

xxx

Oh thank goodness for that!!!:lol::lol:

 

[*JOANNE*]

My eldest boy is 13 and now he is at high school his homework is project based and he has a special password to log on from home to see what homework he has been set, he doesn't get the traditional homework..its a couple of projects per term and maybe some sheets to complete so he does it himself and just throws ideas around and i help a little.......but my youngest boys are at juniors and personally the amount of homework they get is ridiculous...way to much i feel.....and some of it way over my head..............they ask for help and i end up thinking o m g how thick am i...i just dont get it...lol i have even written on the bottom of some of the work in pencil...sorry paul couldnt do his homework as myself and paul couldnt do it...pmsl.....

 

[Coppertop]

My eldest boy is 13 and now he is at high school his homework is project based and he has a special password to log on from home to see what homework he has been set, he doesn't get the traditional homework..its a couple of projects per term and maybe some sheets to complete so he does it himself and just throws ideas around and i help a little.......but my youngest boys are at juniors and personally the amount of homework they get is ridiculous...way to much i feel.....and some of it way over my head..............they ask for help and i end up thinking o m g how thick am i...i just dont get it...lol i have even written on the bottom of some of the work in pencil...sorry paul couldnt do his homework as myself and paul couldnt do it...pmsl.....

Been there hun, i am thinking of sitting my maths and english gcse's again just so i'm up on everything for when the twins start getting homework.

 

[1999judy]

I have a running battle with my son to get him to do his homework and over the holidays he had 3 projects to do..nightmare.
So yes i helped him quite a bit and i must say i got a good mark for geography.
He is only 13 so i dont feel too guilty as i do know parents who have done most of their kids gcse coursework.How much do you help or actually do for them ?

Gill I struggle with my 7 year olds homework sometimes:lol:
I help but it's very tempting to just do some things for them, so now her dad does it with her and he's pretty strict.
Once my boys got older I refused to help them too much as I thought it was cheating a bit.
Besides they are much more clever than I am!! I probably would have told them the wrong thing and they have internet and the books for the subjects to help so I let them get on with it.
The eldest did great and is now at college so we'll have to see how the next one goes.....

 

[soriminah]

My Mum used to help me when I was in primary school - you know the kind of thing, like bringing a book home and you have to read it to her and she signs your booklet to say you read it. She'd sit with me to make sure I did my homework and help me if I was stuck on something but I had to do it all.

Once in high school I was on my own. She said to me 'you don't do your homework and you fail, that's your tough luck.'

Having said that, if there was something that I needed her to check to make sure it made sense, spell check or similar then she would help but as for actually doing any of it for me - no way.

 

[beautynails]

Kids are tougher than we give them credit for, and by doing their homework for them (or practically doing it by "helping"), we are not letting them develop their problem solving skills, and we are basically setting them up for a fall. My 12 year old gets homework in the school holidays and I encourage it, they get a ridiculous amount of time off for holidays so they can easily accommodate some home work but still enjoy their holidays.

I think homework is a good tool to allow kids to become self motivated (ie they have to make themselves do the work), it encourages them to solve problems by themselves (provided the parents dont solve the problems for them), and it encourages a disciplined schedule. My daughter knows that when she gets home from school she has to get changed, get a drink, then start her homework, not only that but she has to do this without being told to do so. Once its done, the evening is hers, so there's still a balance of work and leisure time. It might seem a bit harsh, but these are skills that we need in adult life, and it does kids no harm to start developing these skills while they are still at school. I know some people have said that its a bit unfair while they are still at primary school, but the way I see it is this: if you allow kids to breeze through primary school, secondary school and all the homework, coursework and ultimately GCSE's will hit them like a ton of bricks, and this type of change to their schedule is what causes kids to suffer from stress. If you get them used to daily homework while they're young, they come to expect it and can handle the workload of secondary school much easier, because they're used to it. Just my opinion.

Here, here. I completely agree. Problem solving is so important for everybody to learn and being able to accomplish something on their own gives them confidence.

Homework/assignments also help kids learn time managment. I know of alot of parents who write notes to make excuses for why their child hasn't finished an assignment on time, I refuse to do that. My daughter has football 5 days a week, 6 days one week a month & there are still no excuses. One of the girls she plays with was actually doing homework on the sideline the other week

 

[fairiegirl]

My daughter is 12 and she comes home with homework every night of the school week and there is even some for the weekend for good measure. I hate homework oh and maths I am pants at oh really pants. Give me a profit and loss ledger then I'm OK I understand that. But everything else is a blur. But i do help when she just doesn't get it. I ask her to go and sit and think about it and have a go, But if she just cant understand then I try only to give pointers as then I'm not doing it for her.

 

[min11]

We help, thats it. My twins are 15 and one of them had so much course work to do during the Christmas break we had to cut our time away down, this Easter break both twins had to get a mountain of work done and so stayed home. I'm glad we didn't do their work for them when they were younger as they would never cope now.

What is winding me up is a new head teacher at my 11yr olds school who sends his class home with old Sats papers for work they never did apparently just so they can see what its like and she can see what they can do. I've seen him in tears so many times now as he is very bright and used to achieving but thinks its his fault he cant do the work. We are one of a number of peed off parents who seem to spend endless weekends teaching our kids how to do the work in the papers she sends home, essentially doing her job :irked:

I have to say who ever wrote some of the papers has a very odd mind, the questions can be so obtuse. We also get the papers home marked that they are doing for practise in school and the number of times no matter which way you read it its been marked wrong but the answer is right. Couple that with a spellings list he came home with to learn with two spellings completely wrong and thats the head teacher!

I digress :lol: So, no, we don't do their homework. We don't have any faith in the education system at the moment though either.

 

[beautyseeker]

Children in primary school SHOULD NOT be getting homework, it serves no purpose whatsoever. This is according to friends of mine who are both primary school teachers. In fact my daughters primary school did not give homework as the head teacher there said it served no purpose, children should be outside playing and not inside stressing.

Kids from her old PS have a good reputation for high standards of education, better than that of a PS I know that inundates the kids every day with an hour of homework, so what does that tell you?

I TOTALY REFUSE to do her homework for her, otherwise how will she learn anything and also to manage her free time. I will help find resources if she cant find stuff online and will help her look for it, but she has to read it and decide for herself if its what she is looking for, etc.

I dont understand the point of doing your childs homework for them at all and think that the parents who do so are bonkers and are in fact hindering their childs future, not ensuring it.

 

[nicky's nails]

I would never do my childs homework for them ever, I have helped and thrown ideas and suggestions about plenty of times, but would never ever do it for them, even when theyve left it and are going to get detention for not handing it in on time, it serves no purpose to do it for them, and doesnt help them either.

My kids are 6, 9 and 14 and they all get homework, the 6 yr old ashleigh has reading every night (now she gets homework and spellings but shes the only one in her year who does, cos shes on the gifted and talented) and we make sure she gets extra for over summer hols etc, if they dont do anything over the hols they end up forgetting lots of it and they take ages to settle back into school imho

my 9 year old gets some every weekend and he goes to homework club after school on a monday to complete it, where there are teaching assistants to help explain if they are struggling etc

I think in this country we dont give our kids enough credit, they are capable of much more than some people realise and tbh in the case of both my elder children we have at some point complained that they dont get enough homework, thats why so many kids cannot cope at high school because they are used to doing nowt but playing out and playing pc and video games and then they feel agrieved when they reach seniors, cos all of a sudden they have work to do after school, in my opinion kids should have at least 2 or 3 pieces of work a week, even little ones, it helps them learn to follow rules, study and buckle down, and in this day and age its so important for them to be able to do this.

great thread hun xxx

 

[champagne]

I help them.............but dont do it for them !!!!!!!

 

[blossom]

If they were sent home on school holidays with home work i would spit chips!!!
I think hols should be hols.. time off to just be kids you know, Well done you for helping.. kids need help and sometimes its good for them to know they can turn to mum for a lift up.

Absolutely agree. My 10 year old has had four pieces of homework over the Easter fortnight which has taken about 4 hours in total. I just wish they'd let them enjoy being kids, especially while they're still in primary school.

Meant to say, she does it all herself but I've been known to sit and encourage (or keep her focussed lol) or look up info on the internet etc to save her time.

 

[debs69]

I never even see any homework, we ask our son it he's got any, he says no, we check his planner so we know he isn't lying - STRANGE !!!??

 

[gillian w]

I wonder what a school would do if you said you didnt want your child to get homework.I do actually feel like this because, i know he doesnt learn anything from it, i know the teachers just flick through it to mark it and it causes loads of tension at home getting him to do it also i would rather he be out playing when he can because he has only 2 hours of pe a week.
Im not going to do it but i would like to.