Getting over ex's?

[Beauty by Chell]

Oohh hun sounds likea very hard situation your in and i toatally understand how your feeling :hug:

Things with my ex are suprisinly going well, A few weeks back i started seeing someone else my ex found out and promised things would be good with us etc

And ive been seeing my ex since and he is being great and becoming closer and closer to me lets just hope it lasts aye

xx

Its amazing how men will change when they know that you aren't going to stick around!! I'm glad things are going well for you hun!

I had an ex off and on for 7 years and he was exactly like your guy, we brought a house together and he would move back to him mums for a few weeks "break" I sold up and moved to Cyprus he said he would follow in 2 years once his business was up and running but the day i met my now husband i text him and told him not to contact me anymore and he promised me the world, even offered to fly out a few weeks later, luckily i changed my number and never spoke to him again!

I hope he has realised that you deserve better now and you get everything that you want from your relationship. xx

 

[Chameleon]

Tell you what,play the song by Kim |Wilde "set me free why dont ya babe ya just keep me hanging on"....works a treat:lol:

Seriously,i think angelina said it all at the beginning of the thread!

 

[ambretta gold]

Hi he is just usiing you because he can. i was in same situation and it was really hard to tell him to go to hell, but i did and shortly afterwards found my true soulmate, so maybe you could do same. take care and be strong. xx

 

[Bonkers]

well update on me and my - oooh i cant use the words to say what he is - ex!

well we started to sort things out 2 weeks ago, i thought everything was going to be good, he had all these promises and that i was perfect for him etc, I dropped him off at airport and he went back to iraq for 6 weeks that was on the 19th april. for a week he was perfect then he went quiet, he used to text, call and msn me hundreds of times a day

THEN...

on monday i went off to do some treatments got home at 9pm and logged onto facebook, there clear as day was pictures of him and another girl kissing and his status, ...is looking forward to going travelling with his girlfriend!

I was devestated! really gutted! to see it there. My mum went mad at me for crying over him but she was really pissed off i found out later she had messaged him and his new gf.

I later spoke to the girl for about 3 hours, turns out he had been seeing her for the last 4 1/2 mths so their whole relationship while he was with me i had been with him just over a year. Every conversation i seem to have had with him, she had had the same, even down to he asked her to have a baby with him too and the names he liked.
I was absolutly disgusted, on some of the days he had even slept with us both!!! Took me a few days to get my head around it but I will never speak to this man again ever! i have had so much hurt in the last year off him.
the other girl well looks like she is staying with him, she said he was going to propose to her, i just wish her luck! I have blocked him every way i can and hope i never hear from him again.

I dont think I want another relationship for a long time however what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and unfortunatly you have to get hurt sometimes in order to move forward.
I dont think all men are like this i have just been very unlucky in the men i have given chances to. next time i will be more careful.

 

[2cheesecakes]

you sound like a real romantic. this is how i think of it in my head, as i am too:

when you're not meant to be someone, your paths can cross a thousand times and you'll never get it together the way you want, but when it's meant to be, you can travel the most conveluted paths but you will find each other, and once you do, it'll be forever.

another thing to rememebr is the person you loved last is always the one you'll think you love the most. that's just logic, since if they weren't more profound that your other expereinces, they'd never have gotten your heart like no one else. the truth is the world is vast and no one is indespensible.

one real thing you have to ask yourself is do think that the greatest love that exists is a one-sided love? the love you get back from someone when you love them, is true love- that's the only love that's worth shedding tears over and do you know why? beacsue it's the only one type of love that won't ever make you cry...

 

[Violet Star]

well update on me and my - oooh i cant use the words to say what he is - ex!

well we started to sort things out 2 weeks ago, i thought everything was going to be good, he had all these promises and that i was perfect for him etc, I dropped him off at airport and he went back to iraq for 6 weeks that was on the 19th april. for a week he was perfect then he went quiet, he used to text, call and msn me hundreds of times a day

THEN...

on monday i went off to do some treatments got home at 9pm and logged onto facebook, there clear as day was pictures of him and another girl kissing and his status, ...is looking forward to going travelling with his girlfriend!

I was devestated! really gutted! to see it there. My mum went mad at me for crying over him but she was really pissed off i found out later she had messaged him and his new gf.

I later spoke to the girl for about 3 hours, turns out he had been seeing her for the last 4 1/2 mths so their whole relationship while he was with me i had been with him just over a year. Every conversation i seem to have had with him, she had had the same, even down to he asked her to have a baby with him too and the names he liked.
I was absolutly disgusted, on some of the days he had even slept with us both!!! Took me a few days to get my head around it but I will never speak to this man again ever! i have had so much hurt in the last year off him.
the other girl well looks like she is staying with him, she said he was going to propose to her, i just wish her luck! I have blocked him every way i can and hope i never hear from him again.

I dont think I want another relationship for a long time however what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and unfortunatly you have to get hurt sometimes in order to move forward.
I dont think all men are like this i have just been very unlucky in the men i have given chances to. next time i will be more careful.

Awww hun i really feel for you :hug: What an ar*e he is, and im very sure he will regret doing what he did to you beccause you seem like a lovely caring girl! I hope in time you do find someone who is going to treat you great. chin up you have us here to cheer you up, just get a dart board put a picture of his face on it and throw darts at it :lol: xxx

 

[lilly]

Awww hun i really feel for you :hug: What an ar*e he is, and im very sure he will regret doing what he did to you beccause you seem like a lovely caring girl! I hope in time you do find someone who is going to treat you great. chin up you have us here to cheer you up, just get a dart board put a picture of his face on it and throw darts at it :lol: xxx

go out with one of his mates, then he'l see how flippin stupid he was for treating you like some sort of mug !

A woman scorned grrrr !

 

[JellyJane]

I lived with someone for ten years and he worked away a lot and when he did come home he just wanted to go to the pub and get drunk. He was 12 years older than me and always thought he knew best, told what I should and shouldn't do, what I should and shouldn't wear and was very jealous, even though I didn't give him anything to be jealous about. It got to the point where I had had enough even though I loved him I couldn't live with him anymore and told him I was leaving. I had a house that I rented and my tenant was moving out so on the day I packed my car (I only took clothes) and he stood and watched me and it really hurt me to do it but I was strong. He turned up at my work at lunchtimes, rang me all the time, called round and was always inviting me for sunday lunch, which I agreed to. But then one day I just thought NO enought is enough and I told him straight. I went home and cried and thought Oh i'm gonna be the old spinster left on the shelf. I was on my own for a year then I met my now husband, we met in July, got engaged in September and married the following May. it is our 10th Wedding Anniversary on 29th May and I am so happy. We have worked together for the last 6 six with our own business and we do everythihng together, we are like best mates.
All I can say is keep strong, keep busy and you deserve better. Get rid of him, spend some time on your own or going out and having fun and the right man will come along.
Sorry for rambling on. :hug:

 

[JellyJane]

Oh and get this......
My sister knows someone who was happily married, had kids and thought everything was hunky dorey. Then she found out she was seriously ill, ended up in hospital for months and nearly died. She finally got home and started trying to get back to normal then her husband goes to work, rings her and says there is a letter in the drawer for her. She reads it and he's telling her he has gone away for a while, cos he needs to space and she has held him back from doing things he wanted. he controlled all the money, she didn't even have a bank account. Finally it comes out he's seeing someone else, says it over, she forgives him, he comes back. Then she finds out its been going on four years, and wait for it........ He wants to share his life, half with her and half with the other woman!!!!! and thought she would agree to it.
The good news is she has kicked him out, the other woman doesn't want him full time and his kids won't talk to him. What a T**T.

I would have got my products out and stuck his bits together while he was asleep, then glued his hand to them so he had to go to hospital..... not that i'm evil or anything.:evil: ha ha

 

[SusanEvian]

So you imply that he lies when he tells me that he loves me? We was together for 4 years he was madly in love with me - and i know in myself that you dont just wake up one day and stop loving them life isnt that simple.

I see him the way he is i dont see him the way i 'want' to see him otherwise id still be talking to him now!

Sorry but you dont know the situation you dont know his feelings or if he loves me so you cant judge the fact that he doesnt love me when you dont know.

Suppose it was a mistake to post my personal life on a forum shall get this thread closed
thanks to those who gave me some fab advice and suppprt!
P.s florriedee will get that book thanks x

You have a problem, and in your mind you see your future with him. Its not going to happen. but you think it is, you will keep asking people things until you get the answer that YOU want to hear.

I can judge this just by your conversation on here. I am sorry and do not take this wrong, he is playing you. you need to understand this. until you do understand you will be stuck is the same cycle, makeup, break up makeup..

You need to meet new people who are not part of your normal sect.


Su x

 

[Violet Star]

You have a problem, and in your mind you see your future with him. Its not going to happen. but you think it is, you will keep asking people things until you get the answer that YOU want to hear.

I can judge this just by your conversation on here. I am sorry and do not take this wrong, he is playing you. you need to understand this. until you do understand you will be stuck is the same cycle, makeup, break up makeup..

You need to meet new people who are not part of your normal sect.


Su x

I find it rather harsh for you to say that i have a problem of course i dont have a problem! Unfortunatly love and relationships isnt always easy and its not as easy to get over someone!

You may not have read the entire thread but i mentioned that we are now back on track and things are going great, we are together now and im the happiest ive ever been.

And if im really honest its not nice for someone to say he is playing with you, he doesnt love you etc when he wouldnt be with me if he didnt!