Hello lovely people

[pippy]

well hello everybody i hope all is well with all of you. sorry for the rant but i needed to get it out there:-x
now down to the main subject ;-D
I am almost at the end of my nvq L2 and although it started off a rough year for me things only went for the better.
so, after a year and 3mnths of hard work and dedication to my salon placement i found that i wasn't getting anywhere with my progress as all i was doing was shampooing and sweeping up. now i felt that being at a L2 I should be doing a lot more and even though i talked to the salon owner countless times about giving me a chance to work on clients he kept saying ok next week i will throw in the deep end. but, next week never came.

I tried to quit once before and he basically went into a slagging fit about how my college was "crap" and he doesn't think that i have the necessary skills to be let loose on his clients and that he would be loosing money by letting me botch treatments (let me just say that i do not consider myself as the best thing that walked on this earth but i know for a fact that i am not so incompetent that i would loose money for someone). then he proceeded by telling me that even though the college is not recognizable to him he will train me in his methods starting next week "here we go again I thought". this i agreed with because to be honest with you i really liked him before that. so i thought give him one more chance. again next week never came. i stayed with him another three weeks and one day i just looked at myself in the mirror and mentally slapped myself and thought "Why the hell are you doing this to yourself, Leave and see what's out there it might not be as bad as you think".

so i went to the salon to quit he was not there, i called him he did not pick up so, i txted my notice.
his txted a reply saying that i was "sly" and i should have had the decency to work on Saturday and then tell him that i quit.?????

Now to me that would have been two faced of me. and the reply was so hurtful i couldn't believe it I worked my fingers off to the bone for that place, i lent him money when he needed it even though my husband and I are on benefits and that money was basically months on end of saving whatever money we could for a rainy day. i worked days that i should have been in college because his salon was busy as a result i am behind on my assessments, i covered for him when he messed up. i even got him out of sticky situations using me legal knowledge and past experience.

now i went into hairdressing granted at a late age of 35 yrs of age but only because of my background and my dad believing that hairdressers went no where and i needed a solid qual. i mean it isn't even bachlor degrees they are full on masters in law and marketing. and i left all that for what i am passionate about (well was passionate about). all i wanted was a thank you and good luck for your future. how hard would that have been.

as a result of this i don't even feel like looking for another place. i mean what's the use if all experienced hairdressers will just use you to their full advantage and then spit you out like you were garbage:-( really disappointed in him and have no faith in any salon owner or experienced hairdresser any more.

on a more cheerful note i feel so liberated that i finally stood up for myself hehe:-D

 

[jurate]

Hey, I feel sorry for you, but, hey, two things : what comes around - goes around (I mean that "thing" that cannot be called a human being) and as for yourself... don't lose your faith, it can only get better, at least, that is what I believe in, especially, after being in a similar situation like you. I left with nothing and lost even more after that, to the point, where I nearly lost my belief, but I am slowly building myself to be a bigger and better person. And I believe in future

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[pippy]

thanks babe really appreciate it although the gossip in me wants to know more about your story i will suppress the desire to nose but i hope your life turned out for the better after. as you can see a week on and I am feel better about myself and in myself. i didn't realize how much that place was dragging me down even the black circles around my eyes have gone which i am chuffed about i look younger if that is at all possible. thank god i left when i did. i have started planning for my own business going mobile and looking for a part time job as well. it is good to let it all out in the open:-x

 

[jurate]

I wish i could tell you, but its such a long story, and there was so much involved, that i wouldnt know where to start from but, if i am to tell you in "three words", heres a short version. I was getting tired of my job (back in 2008), so started looking for something new, went through a few interviews, got offered a job that had a better pay and a more challenging position (i love challenges!!). As i was offered the job, i went to my boss to inform her of me getting a new job, and thinking of leaving. At the time i wasnt concerned about the wage as i was comfortable enough with what i had and im not a greedy person. Anyway, my boss freaked out, started saying that they had a better position lined up for me, i would start next week, all she wanted was for me not to leave. Anyway, i had a think about it and decided to stay. Weeks passed and that next week stayed "next week". After three months of empty promises, meetings with hr, management, etc i lost my patience. I came to my boss again and i just told her i would be leaving if nothing got sorted soon as i was tired of being made fool of. Her advice was to give in a 2 weeks notice"to speed things up". Well, as you can guess, two weeks came and went and i found myself with no job in the end. It hurt so bad, it still does as i still cant understand why did she decide to let me go this way, if i were a bad employee, she should have let me go back then , when i first wanted to quit, but instead she asked me to stay. Well, i ended up finding a job on a nearly minimum wage, im still struggling to this day and the job that i do is definitely not something i want to do, but all this helped me find something that i truly enjoy doing - i used most of my savings on a beauty therapy course, which i really enjoy and am half way through it. I finally feel like i am on a path that i belong on and hope the whole thing will bring me somewhere nice. Every time i perform any treatment on my models, i zone out from reality, i enjoy every bit of it and people tell me that they get shivers (pleasant ones) going up and down their body nearly every time i touch them

Im glad everything is working out for you, too. It can only get better ;-)

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[tresses]

hi

I can relate to your your experience ( see a previous post of mine).I was treated really badly by a salon I pratically run, in 3 years never took a day off or had a holiday, on my day off i went to college. I was really ill last november (pneumonia) that was the final straw i signed off sick,and never went back. It has taken me 6 months to build my self back up, I have started to build up my own mobile clients, and this week passed my level 3. Today I applied for a part time job in a salon a few miles away. I wishs you luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[pippy]

jst wanted to update you all n this post. as i said happy with my decision to quit never going back. a month later after all that and me just finished my L2 and jst starting to get my energy back the salon owner calls me back.
him: - "so hi how are you doing". "ouhh congrats you qualified", "so what's your next plan?"

me: - "doing fine applying for jobs whereevre i can even if part time to get my skills updated"
him: - " well you know the saturday job is always open for you if you want it".

me: - "uhmm... well thank you for that but to be honest i was thinking of doing more than just shampooing hair".

him: - " ouhh the area you are applying for is too far, how are you going to get there, you'll never be able to make it".

me: - "well people have been going there every day i would do the same", but again thank you for the offer i will keep it in mind"

him: - "well if you ask me i think you are being ungrateful here if you realy needed the money you would have taken what ever is offered to you".

note: - at this point i was still keeping a calm diplomatic voice but bunching the wall infront of me:|

him: - " and furthure more you wil never be able to make it in teh hairdressing industry because in teh last few weeks you were with me all you wanted to do was sleep, and when clients asked you what you were doing for the weekeded, you're answer was always sleep"." you can not become a hairdresser through sleep". and to add to it " you are opinionated and it's all me me with you (as in tat i am selfish).

note: - I was suffering from chronic fatigue at this point juggling college two kids and working all hours possible with his salon to prove i could do more and tat was giving up point when i realised i'm not getting anywhere with him.

me: - "Well i'm sorry you feel that way and since i'm such a bad persn to employee you should not be calling me offering me a job anyway". good bye and good luck!!!

THE END!!!! felt good too did have my doubts between myself and felt down for a while but time and darkeness can really help you analyis things a lot more clear hehe....

 

[dee]

hahaha the age old "i will offer you a job and if you turn it down i will try make you feel like crap " oooh you gotta love that approach to getting staff ...NOT ,
hun yuou will be fine dont let him worry you, you said it yerself if you were so bad why theheck would he offer you a job !! move on hun xx

 

[pippy]

so do salon owners do this approach regularly? i'm not just being over sensitive? cause if they do, then i would like to pose another question. what is the motivation or the thinking behind it? it certainly wouldn't get me back if he made me feel bad about the services i offered his business so why do it? hmm... the human brain still mystifies me

 

[persianista]

so do salon owners do this approach regularly? i'm not just being over sensitive? cause if they do, then i would like to pose another question. what is the motivation or the thinking behind it? it certainly wouldn't get me back if he made me feel bad about the services i offered his business so why do it? hmm... the human brain still mystifies me

I don't understand it either. People need to know that their boss has confidence in them in order to thrive in a difficult industry.
Sounds like your best off out of there.

 

[pippy]

I don't understand it either. People need to know that their boss has confidence in them in order to thrive in a difficult industry.
Sounds like your best off out of there.

thanks hun you're support really means a lot to me:-x

 

[pippy]

ouhh and just to add i went to an interview for a job today only 10 hrs but I am hoping that if i do get called back for the trade test and get the postion that my hours will increase eventually as my reputation grows so all's well that ends well:-D