What time do you put your kid/s to bed?

[squidgernetball]

I'm afraid I hated Gina Fords book with a vengeance. I was asked to write a review on the book Three in a bed which completely changed how I brought up my daughters. Became a born again hippy. We co slept, breast fed on demand, took them wherever we went, and had my own contented little babies.

Bedtime now is different again as they're 18 and 21!

Vicki x

 

[virtues2011]

I'm afraid I hated Gina Fords book with a vengeance. I was asked to write a review on the book Three in a bed which completely changed how I brought up my daughters. Became a born again hippy. We co slept, breast fed on demand, took them wherever we went, and had my own contented little babies.

Bedtime now is different again as they're 18 and 21!

Vicki x

Ha ha Vicki, that sounds different, you must of hated the book. I've never read it nor do I want to, couldn't even tell you what it looked like but clearly it was around when my daughter was young as your girls are similar ages to my daughter.

My friend puts her baby son down for a nap in the afternoon same time every day regardless of whether he is tired or not and the very few times I have been there when this ritual happens he spends the whole time on his knees in his cot rocking backwards and forwards and hitting his forehead on the side of the cot...to me it like a form of torture to the poor little mite.

 

[squidgernetball]

Ha ha Vicki, that sounds different, you must of hated the book. I've never read it nor do I want to, couldn't even tell you what it looked like but clearly it was around when my daughter was young as your girls are similar ages to my daughter.

My friend puts her baby son down for a nap in the afternoon same time every day regardless of whether he is tired or not and the very few times I have been there when this ritual happens he spends the whole time on his knees in his cot rocking backwards and forwards and hitting his forehead on the side of the cot...to me it like a form of torture to the poor little mite.

I was at my wits end when I put my daughter down to sleep and she started burrowing. We had been told by the "sleep specialist" (yet another person telling us what to do who had never had children) to leave her to cry. Eventually, my husband picked her up out of the cot and said "I wouldn't treat an animal like this" put her in our bed and that's where she stayed. When I was given Three in a bed to read, I heaved a sigh of relief. My health visitor in London kept telling me we had to get her out of our bed. We moved to the Midlands and the health visitor here was a bigger hippy than me, and said "We all do what works for us" and I think that sums it up for all of us as parents!

Vicki x

 

[happyfeet]

My son who's 8 was a 730pm bed time which thanks to my bloody husband has been stretched to 8pm. Though in honesty with baby on the way that will help when he arrives.

Weekends and holidays can be different and if hubby is home in the evenings as Sammy doesn't see him much dependant upon his shifts though school nights still remain at 8pm. Himself is working locally as of Jan so that will help and im getting more tired with the pregnancy.

Routines are a god send for me and it helps our son too. Xx

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[waxcetera]

My daughters, 10 and 12 go up at 8.30, sometimes it drags on till 9pm. My son who's 14 hasn't had a bedtime for years but he's on sleep medication, he's always in his room tho n on the rare occasion he's downstairs,he takes his meds at 9pm n is upstairs by 10.
I think wot ever works for you, you should go with that

 

[Violet Vision]

I read the Gina Ford book, but I was bottle feeding a big baby and the routines did not fit in, but I read it to get small pieces of advice like no night lights etc. You take out of it what works for you, I never followed everything but I am glad I read it. I've tried everything with my 2 boys, one had night terrors! Sleeping has always been an issue!
Once a week we have "family night" usually at weekends, where they sleep in my bed and we go bed early snuggle up and watch a film. This is their treat!!!
We all enjoy hugs!!

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[KHS]

Never heard of Gina Ford :/
I was strict on bed times, night feeds the lot,
Took bottles, flask of boiling water, nappies etc to bed with me, when he woke, I didn't speak, fuss him, nothing, just filled the jug with hot water, stuck bottle in, changed him, fed him, winded him, and straight back in Moses basket, no fuss at all, wasn't giving him a reason 3am was play time with mummy haha.
As he grew, Bed times were set, even if he wasn't tired at 7, he was put in bed to chill snd relax, I had no trouble with him,
UNTIL he reached high school he's nearly 14 now... X mum lets them stay up until...Y mum don't have a bed time ...
Well THIS mum does 9.30 - 10 on a school night, end of! wicked mum I am haha

 

[Mobile Manicure]

I'm glad you mentioned Gina Ford as I tried doing it with my child, but it literally drove me insane! I took all the elements I like from it such as nap times and swaddling to create my own & it worked perfectly! Still does!

I read it and thought "you must be having a laugh!" If I followed that book I would never have been able to leave the house. Social life completely out the window. Complete madness. Every child is different and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. A stress free environment is what a child needs and I doubt if I'd followed Gina Ford's routine our household would have been stress free.

 

[Split Ends]

My son is nearly 1 year old and he is in a lovely routine, he has dinner 5.30-6pm, then bath and bed at 7.45-8pm.
If my partners family ask are going out I tell them no his bed time is at thay time. I do get critizied by them. They tell me I dont need to put him to bed at that time every night, hes my child and he gets ratty when he needs sleep.

 

[Gcross]

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one then, I was actually starting to wonder if it was too early putting him to bed at that time
But I like having a routine for him and I think it's makes us all happier, he has a proper rest and I get an evening to myself. Xx

 

[Missy1213]

I think putting children to bed between 530/6 is too early? No?
Babies I understand but older ones?

 

[virtues2011]

I think putting children to bed between 530/6 is too early? No?
Babies I understand but older ones?

How old are you talking Missy? I'm not sure what a two year old would gain from being up until 8pm... apart from getting on my nerves! Ha ha

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[Becca@PolishedToPerfection]

I think putting children to bed between 530/6 is too early? No?
Babies I understand but older ones?

I agree, my oh isn't home from work until between 5-6 some nights so we don't finish tea till 7 some nights which means my 3yr old going to bed about 8ish. Otherwise he would never see my partner! X

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[hazeleyes]

I think putting children to bed between 530/6 is too early? No?
Babies I understand but older ones?

My son wouldn't sleep that early- not would the baby really! If they did they would be awake at 4am!!!

 

[Victoriabar]

My eldest child (now 24) I had when I was just 17, her care was taken over by her grandmother while I was sent off to work with the fear of threats, her whole life until 2 was run by timings of her grandmother who beleived in leaving a child to cry themselves to sleep, even if sobbing.
once we managed to move away she had a calm 7pm bedtime which increased a little every few years.

My sons (now 21) life was medically dictated as he was on machinery for feeding so had to be in bed by 8latest until he was a teen and began managing his own care and nighttime feedings and machines.
Very regimented but very calm.

My next two children (now 16 & 5) were worn, longterm breastfed, no routine, no timings, total babyled weaning and bedtime came when they were tired with co sleeping.
They were never left to cry for more than a few moments, every call answered and sorted.
The first would put herself to bed at 7.30 everynight, she had no clock reminder it just seemed to be her tired time.
My youngest on the other hand didn't sleep well at all as a tot, infact she was 4 when she first slept a whole night and in her own bed.
Now she wants to be getting off to bed at 5.30pm (was 6.30 in the summer) and sleeps through to 7am she still doesn't sleep soundly, she sleepwalks, screams and shouts all night long and is a horrific teeth grinder, so her going to bed early I'm thinking is her bodys way of ensuring she gets a full 8hrs of sleep despite the long hours in bed.

My granddaughters all go to bed at a set time of 6.30/7.30, not a strict routine but they all go to sleep easily and no fuss.


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[happyfeet]

Everyone should do what works for them, so if gina ford is your thing then so be it, however after working years in child care you learn very quickly that every child is unique and this practice is encouraged through childcare and schools and of course during home life. So having such a strict a regimen as GF, I find it really hard to comprehend, both as a parent and as a former child care worker. I would imagine it puts immense pressure following such strict hours for both baby and family.

On a different note my midwife asked the other day how active my little Maxi is in my belly, really active I said in the wee small hours, imagine my horror when she said hmmmmm Laura that is an indication of how your bubs will be when he's here! For an insomniac like me that's not so bad, for my hubby and son? Errr not so much

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[mummafresh]

Some children just need an early night, my dd goes to bed early at around 6 depending on how tired she is and will often sleep 12 hours. My ds's (13 & 6 ) on the other hand would stay up all night given half the chance.
6yr old goes between 7.30 and 8.45 the later tends to be Friday or sat nights. 13yrold don't really have a set bedtime but all lights are out at 10pm sun-thurs.

 

[Gcross]

If my son does have a late night due to an event or something then he normally sleeps in a bit later. My nephew on the other hand if he goes to bed at 7am he is up at 5am if he goes to bed at 10pm he still gets up at 5am..... No matter how late he is in bed he will still wake up at 5am!

X

 

[Mobile Manicure]

If my son does have a late night due to an event or something then he normally sleeps in a bit later. My nephew on the other hand if he goes to bed at 7am he is up at 5am if he goes to bed at 10pm he still gets up at 5am..... No matter how late he is in bed he will still wake up at 5am!

X

If that was my child I would unfortunately have to give him away.

 

[jade_brooke]

My nearly 5 year old little girl on a school night is in bed and asleep by 7.30 on a weekend/half term anything between 8 and 9 x