I am seriously gonna cry!

[waffle4]

I agree with Penners. Also, you put somewhere that you can only go in in the morning as the staff wash the residents hair in the morning in the showers (but obviously going in the morning is the worst time for the staff coz they are supposedly coping with the morning rush). Well, couldn't they still wash their hair in the morning in the shower and do whatever they usually do when you're not there (let it dry naturally??) and you could then come in at a quieter time (11am?) and then use a warm water spray on the residents hair to wet it again???? Is this do-able??
God, it really gets me though the state of care in this country of the elderly or infirm, where you now have a hairstylist worried coz the poor person needs the loo and the carers don't give a stuff!!
We're all behind you hairdresser18 :hug: xxxxx

 

[hairdresser18]

Yea I will ask them about coming in at a different day and time and see what they say, thanks for all your support guys! xx

 

[molly'smanicure]

Yea I will ask them about coming in at a different day and time and see what they say, thanks for all your support guys! xx

Hi I worked in a private nursing home for 10 years and i can relate to what your saying. but i have to say working in a care home is so demanding,underpaid and a thank less job that they prob feel like crying when they go home too. The mornings are the busiest in care homes and you have to work to a strict time otherwise you end up not having a break and getting told of. I think you should be being paid on the same day by the clients themselves (out of the petty cash) usually. Carers are funny about routine, i wouldnt take it personally.

 

[LindaHR]

Something one of my daughters said to me when I was complaining about somewhere I worked was this...she said, 'Look you know they are like this, you've told me before, so either leave and get over it or decide to stay and never let your mind dwell on these problems again. Just get on with it and stop complaining about it.'
Please don't think I'm meaning to be rude...this was a daughter speaking to a mother...lol. They are a bit forthright.
But it was a good lesson for me. She was saying if you can change it then get on and do so without any more complaining but if you can't or you don't then just shut up and get on with it. Not cos she didnt want to listen but cos it's the only way to cope.
We make ourselves unhappy if we go on moaning about things we are not able to or not going to change.
I haven't read all the answers here but I'm glad to see your smiley and that you seem to have been helped.
I think you will find that once you take a stand...whether that is in leaving or in some other way of dealing with the care home...that things change like magic. Personal dynamics are very powerful. So they put upon you cos they can. Cos you will take it. Once you find your inner confidence (no need for anger or rudeness either) then it will be obvious to those dealing with you and relationships change.

Good wishes and blessings

Linda