Teenagers!

[lila22]

Well just wondering if anyone has any tips for dealing with argumentative moody teens! I no we have all been there but at the moment i feel like im swimming against the tide with my 15 year old daughter!!
She will argue anything and everything and its getting tiring!
Do you find a way to deal with it works? xx:irked:

 

[Beautytreats75]

Lol i ferl your pain! I have TWO delightful teenage girls. 14 and 17.
You really cant do right for doing wrong!
I find Kalms work (herbal tablets from the chemist) or failing that WINE!!
But seriously its a tough time for both parties. I feel like they hate me most of the time its so hard. I just try to understand its a phase, i just try my best thats all any of us can do xxx

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[lila22]

Lol i ferl your pain! I have TWO delightful teenage girls. 14 and 17.
You really cant do right for doing wrong!
I find Kalms work (herbal tablets from the chemist) or failing that WINE!!
But seriously its a tough time for both parties. I feel like they hate me most of the time its so hard. I just try to understand its a phase, i just try my best thats all any of us can do xxx

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Ah I think it just helps knowing it's not you! As I feel like she hates me! I feel a bumpy ride coming on 😳
When she was a baby my parents said this is this easy bit!! I no what they mean now!
Think I'll be having some calms round about three 😉xx

 

[virtues2011]

Maybe this will help you feel better guys .. I bought a hair salon for my daughter so she could start and finish her hair qualifications as she was so passionate about it. I employed assessors to help her learn, spent tens of thousands to refurbish the salon so one day she could have her own little business and give her a head start. What parent wouldn't want this for their children!

However long story cut short. She abused it, turned up when she felt like it, decided to get 17 piercings in her face and ears, couldn't be bothered to get there on time, made up all sorts of rubbish to prevent the blame going onto her, and was just so lazy .. Generally was just an arse. It has probably been the worst two years of my life. She is 18 in May. It rubbed off at home too. So I sacked her from the salon and told her to go and live somewhere else. So she has gone to her fathers. We do not talk at the moment.......Anyone want to buy a salon. ...!

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[SuburbanDecay]

Maybe this will help you feel better guys .. I bought a hair salon for my daughter so she could start and finish her hair qualifications as she was so passionate about it. I employed assessors to help her learn, spent tens of thousands to refurbish the salon so one day she could have her own little business and give her a head start. What parent wouldn't want this for their children!

However long story cut short. She abused it, turned up when she felt like it, decided to get 17 piercings in her face and ears, couldn't be bothered to get there on time, made up all sorts of rubbish to prevent the blame going onto her, and was just so lazy .. Generally was just an arse. It has probably been the worst two years of my life. She is 18 in May. It rubbed off at home too. So I sacked her from the salon and told her to go and live somewhere else. So she has gone to her fathers. We do not talk at the moment.......Anyone want to buy a salon. ...!

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First world problems! Lol

 

[Victoriabar]

Teenagers **shudder**

I've been through it twice, going through it right now and I've also a tot who thinks she's one.... I feel your pain

My elder two were very different from my daughter now.
My daughter didn't hit THAT stage until she was 18, she had already left home and decided she was a grown up and it was her way or the highway, argumentative, sulky, hugely opinionated on everything I did/wore/went to.. She's 25 and can still be the same at times.
My son never went through it, the boy is so laid back he is almost horizontal!! At 21 he is a very calming influence on his baby sister.
My 16yro is constantly grumpy - unless she is with her boyf - she is like how her older sister was at 18 but with the fun added extras of being a stamper, door slammer, screamer, shouter, grudge bearer, pusher, swearer.. To be honest I'm not a violent person but if she was a nobody flipping out at me the way she does she'd probably get a punch in the chops!!
BUT because she is my own lil livewire I speak calmly explaining stuff, I don't give her long winded talks to cause she is sometimes so angry she just doesn't hear after a while, I don't shout as it just fuels her.
I literally wait until she has taken herself to her room, ignore the 'get outs' and speak calmly and quietly about any issue that has set her off, give her a one way hug while she stands like a stone then I leave her until she is ready to socialise again.
It works for us

Gotta love teenagers really

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[lila22]

Maybe this will help you feel better guys .. I bought a hair salon for my daughter so she could start and finish her hair qualifications as she was so passionate about it. I employed assessors to help her learn, spent tens of thousands to refurbish the salon so one day she could have her own little business and give her a head start. What parent wouldn't want this for their children!

However long story cut short. She abused it, turned up when she felt like it, decided to get 17 piercings in her face and ears, couldn't be bothered to get there on time, made up all sorts of rubbish to prevent the blame going onto her, and was just so lazy .. Generally was just an arse. It has probably been the worst two years of my life. She is 18 in May. It rubbed off at home too. So I sacked her from the salon and told her to go and live somewhere else. So she has gone to her fathers. We do not talk at the moment.......Anyone want to buy a salon. ...!

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Wow poor you, but good you did not put up with it! How ungrateful can they be!!
The worse thing is i no what i was like as a teen, a nightmare :irked:xx

 

[Abbie101]

I'm only 19 and I don't think me or my 2 sisters an brother were really that bad, I was youngest so they used to blame it all on me and pick on me as I was little, but when I started snapping back we kind of got on better. We still have the odd screaming match normally it's more one screaming at one and the other laughing but other then that nothing. I've never really done anything bad towards my mom and dad apart from embarrassing them by getting really drunk in a local park with friends an have police and ambulance turning up and they had to come pick me up 😁but apart from that it's more arguments with my sisters an brother and I always went running to mommy :/ haha xx

 

[Abbie101]

Maybe this will help you feel better guys .. I bought a hair salon for my daughter so she could start and finish her hair qualifications as she was so passionate about it. I employed assessors to help her learn, spent tens of thousands to refurbish the salon so one day she could have her own little business and give her a head start. What parent wouldn't want this for their children!

However long story cut short. She abused it, turned up when she felt like it, decided to get 17 piercings in her face and ears, couldn't be bothered to get there on time, made up all sorts of rubbish to prevent the blame going onto her, and was just so lazy .. Generally was just an arse. It has probably been the worst two years of my life. She is 18 in May. It rubbed off at home too. So I sacked her from the salon and told her to go and live somewhere else. So she has gone to her fathers. We do not talk at the moment.......Anyone want to buy a salon. ...!

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I would do everything my mom and dad ever asked if they did this for me 😱 i would be over the moon!!! X

 

[lila22]

Teenagers **shudder**

I've been through it twice, going through it right now and I've also a tot who thinks she's one.... I feel your pain

My elder two were very different from my daughter now.
My daughter didn't hit THAT stage until she was 18, she had already left home and decided she was a grown up and it was her way or the highway, argumentative, sulky, hugely opinionated on everything I did/wore/went to.. She's 25 and can still be the same at times.
My son never went through it, the boy is so laid back he is almost horizontal!! At 21 he is a very calming influence on his baby sister.
My 16yro is constantly grumpy - unless she is with her boyf - she is like how her older sister was at 18 but with the fun added extras of being a stamper, door slammer, screamer, shouter, grudge bearer, pusher, swearer.. To be honest I'm not a violent person but if she was a nobody flipping out at me the way she does she'd probably get a punch in the chops!!
BUT because she is my own lil livewire I speak calmly explaining stuff, I don't give her long winded talks to cause she is sometimes so angry she just doesn't hear after a while, I don't shout as it just fuels her.
I literally wait until she has taken herself to her room, ignore the 'get outs' and speak calmly and quietly about any issue that has set her off, give her a one way hug while she stands like a stone then I leave her until she is ready to socialise again.
It works for us

Gotta love teenagers really


I feel bad moaning about one!! mind i think not shouting as you say is the key and this is what i find hard, i shout she shouts back then me, by this point i have steam coming out my ears xx

 

[virtues2011]

I would do everything my mom and dad ever asked if they did this for me �� i would be over the moon!!! X

Just for that comment I feel like giving you the salon as a present. :hug:

 

[virtues2011]

Teenagers **shudder**

I've been through it twice, going through it right now and I've also a tot who thinks she's one.... I feel your pain

My elder two were very different from my daughter now.
My daughter didn't hit THAT stage until she was 18, she had already left home and decided she was a grown up and it was her way or the highway, argumentative, sulky, hugely opinionated on everything I did/wore/went to.. She's 25 and can still be the same at times.
My son never went through it, the boy is so laid back he is almost horizontal!! At 21 he is a very calming influence on his baby sister.
My 16yro is constantly grumpy - unless she is with her boyf - she is like how her older sister was at 18 but with the fun added extras of being a stamper, door slammer, screamer, shouter, grudge bearer, pusher, swearer.. To be honest I'm not a violent person but if she was a nobody flipping out at me the way she does she'd probably get a punch in the chops!!
BUT because she is my own lil livewire I speak calmly explaining stuff, I don't give her long winded talks to cause she is sometimes so angry she just doesn't hear after a while, I don't shout as it just fuels her.
I literally wait until she has taken herself to her room, ignore the 'get outs' and speak calmly and quietly about any issue that has set her off, give her a one way hug while she stands like a stone then I leave her until she is ready to socialise again.
It works for us

Gotta love teenagers really

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Ha Ha Vic - I did laugh out loud with your post....

 

[virtues2011]

This is where the thought process comes into it I suppose. Was it too much? do teenagers have an understanding of the value of money? Do some just get too much? To make her life as good as I can give I paid for her driving lessons, explained that I would get her a little car.... not much interest came from it. The driving lessons seemed to be treated as just a hobby with no emotion when I told her I wouldn't pay for anymore due to her attitude. Yet there are others that would bite their parents hands off for some help. It certainly makes you feel bitter and twisted. I've worked so hard in my life, 20 hours days back in my youth just to make things easy for her.....I'm over it! Learn the hard way. My way doesn't work with her.

I suppose the moral of this story is spending time with your children is probably better than working hard for money and having no time- however I am a little too late for this now. She had to be independent from a young age as I travelled so much for work. She had the love and support of our immediate family but not me so much. I never wanted more than one child, maybe it would have been easier with two.....*shudder*

 

[MamaG]

I have a 15 yo lad and twin girls aged 3 - give me the twins any day!!! God knows how it will be when they're 15...?! Think I'll just book myself a nice long stay in the priory :banghead:

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[lila22]

I think the more you give them the more they want!
It dose not help she has ADHD and I've have ME so we are total opposites in someways!
Xx

 

[Spa Therapist]

This is where the thought process comes into it I suppose. Was it too much? do teenagers have an understanding of the value of money? Do some just get too much? To make her life as good as I can give I paid for her driving lessons, explained that I would get her a little car.... not much interest came from it. The driving lessons seemed to be treated as just a hobby with no emotion when I told her I wouldn't pay for anymore due to her attitude. Yet there are others that would bite their parents hands off for some help. It certainly makes you feel bitter and twisted. I've worked so hard in my life, 20 hours days back in my youth just to make things easy for her.....I'm over it! Learn the hard way. My way doesn't work with her.

I suppose the moral of this story is spending time with your children is probably better than working hard for money and having no time- however I am a little too late for this now. She had to be independent from a young age as I travelled so much for work. She had the love and support of our immediate family but not me so much. I never wanted more than one child, maybe it would have been easier with two.....*shudder*

Give it 10 years and I'm sure she'll be mortified by her behaviour :hug:

If not, when she produces your first grandchild buy him/her a very loud drum kit for Christmas :lick: :green: x

 

[lila22]

Give it 10 years and I'm sure she'll be mortified by her behaviour :hug:

If not, when she produces your first grandchild buy him/her a very loud drum kit for Christmas :lick: :green: x

Haha I like your style! Xx

 

[rippersroo]

Anyone thinking of Kevin? From Kevin and Perry??! Haha "it's SO UNFAIR!!"
I was an only child just me and mum we got on so well we never had tantrums/screaming/fighting. But if I had a little huff about something she'd just say "alright Kevin" then id get over it.

It's very hard to know what to do, I have a father that has never done anything for me and has a lot of money and me & mum struggled all my life we never even had heating where I grew up! He never helped. For this reason I always think If I had a child and have money I would treat them as virtues said what she done for her girl, giving them what you can. Thing is it can get thrown back at you! My boss has 2 sons and one is so good, polite eager to work and help himself and the other is satans twin- rude, lazy, arrogant and wants everything for nothing.
I don't know what I'll do if I ever have kids!! This thread is scaring me!haha x

 

[Mobile Manicure]

My eldest is 12 in a couple of weeks and the signs are already showing. "I hate you", "it's not fair!" Sulking, moodiness. Ignoring you when she doesn't get her own way. She can be really revolting to her Dad and tell him to shut up. Her favourite word or saying is "uugh" -whatever that means.

Then when she wants something a new child emerges. "Hello Mummy (Mummy?!) would you like a cup of tea? Would you like me to clean the kitchen?"

Oh boy, this is going to be a good one.

An hour later I might find out in a roundabout way that she wants her best friend for a sleepover. Then when I say "No" all hell breaks loose. She realises she's wasted all her time being nice for nothing.

I was a complete nightmare. Dreadful. Threw a plant pot at my Dad's head once. I'm in for it. :o

 

[lila22]

Anyone thinking of Kevin? From Kevin and Perry??! Haha "it's SO UNFAIR!!"
I was an only child just me and mum we got on so well we never had tantrums/screaming/fighting. But if I had a little huff about something she'd just say "alright Kevin" then id get over it.

It's very hard to know what to do, I have a father that has never done anything for me and has a lot of money and me & mum struggled all my life we never even had heating where I grew up! He never helped. For this reason I always think If I had a child and have money I would treat them as virtues said what she done for her girl, giving them what you can. Thing is it can get thrown back at you! My boss has 2 sons and one is so good, polite eager to work and help himself and the other is satans twin- rude, lazy, arrogant and wants everything for nothing.
I don't know what I'll do if I ever have kids!! This thread is scaring me!haha x

Ah no don't let us scare you haha! You can always come on here for a good old moan xx