Anyone else suffer loneliness?

[Joe96]

So bit of a soppy post but recently I've been feeling really lonely, I work on my own and although I'm surrounded by customers all day that's it there's no work friendships also all of my friends are starting to settle down in relationships now and I'm still single I feel all I do is go to work and come home and that's it does anyone else feel like this?
I must sound so sad and boring

 

[S&G Beauty Bar]

Oh hun, I couldn't read this and not post.

I can totally relate to this, have felt like this in the past. It can get lonely working in the beauty industry even if you're booked with clients all day, it's not the same as having colleagues.

Only you can change things though. Do you rent in a salon? Did you mean no work friendships because you haven't clicked? Or it's literally you by yourself?

Have you thought about signing up to an evening class? Trying a bit of Internet dating? I know people are apprehensive about online dating, but what they forget is, what have you got to lose really? A few nights of your life to possibly bad dates, but so much to possibly gain...

I spend a lot of time by myself, but I guess I've learnt to enjoy my own company over the years.

Big hugs hun. Hope something changes for you soon so you don't feel this way xx

 

[Joe96]

No I've just opened my own shop and I'm on my own I love it when I'm busy but I just feel there's no staff nights out or anything if you know what I mean! I'm tempted to start going to Zumba and things like that just to get out and about more! I don't mind my own company even though I still live at home it would just be nice to have a date or something or be able to snuggle up and watch a movie!! I'm abit of a romantic Xxx

 

[rachelizabeth]

No I've just opened my own shop and I'm on my own I love it when I'm busy but I just feel there's no staff nights out or anything if you know what I mean! I'm tempted to start going to Zumba and things like that just to get out and about more! I don't mind my own company even though I still live at home it would just be nice to have a date or something or be able to snuggle up and watch a movie!! I'm abit of a romantic Xxx

Working on your own is hard! What's even harder is when you come home or finish for the weekend and all your friends are busy with their relationships
Zumba is a really good idea, I started it last year and it's a great way to get out and feel like you're doing something in a team. Also exercise releases endorphins which can make you feel happier and better rested, then your mind should be more at ease and the loneliness won't be eating away at you as much.
Do you have a pet? I don't know what I would do without my dog. It's actually a nice feeling having something rely on you/need you and you have to walk it everyday so that gets you out of the house and can help you meet new people!
If not, it can't hurt to try internet dating like S&G said. Just remember to stay safe, so tell someone where you're going and who with.

 

[Joe96]

Working on your own is hard! What's even harder is when you come home or finish for the weekend and all your friends are busy with their relationships
Zumba is a really good idea, I started it last year and it's a great way to get out and feel like you're doing something in a team. Also exercise releases endorphins which can make you feel happier and better rested, then your mind should be more at ease and the loneliness won't be eating away at you as much.
Do you have a pet? I don't know what I would do without my dog. It's actually a nice feeling having something rely on you/need you and you have to walk it everyday so that gets you out of the house and can help you meet new people!
If not, it can't hurt to try internet dating like S&G said. Just remember to stay safe, so tell someone where you're going and who with. [/

I just feel i should give myself a shake!! Im gonna try and get out more and not comfort eat as much!!!!

 

[Grace_Hair]

I'll snuggle and watch tv with you!!

I'm in exactly the same boat as you!!

I genuinely class lots of people on here closer friends that my real life

I have no advice for you because I can't get myself out of the rut either!

I've been trying to be a yes girl. And basically say yes to everyone!

and when I find out the rest of the secret I'll let you in.

 

[FlawlessBeauty]

Yes, absolutely. Last year I picked up my life and moved to be with my boyfriend and begin working from home.

I lost most of my friends during this transition because of the distance, it was the first time being away from family, there were hiccups starting my business and I was so depressed I could barely get off the couch which caused arguments with my bf. He works nights and I was so unbearably lonely.

We had a huge bust up after 6 months and it helped me get motivated to get my act together.

Working from home is sorted now but I also work a couple of days a week renting a room in a hairdressers and I love having colleagues that I can have regular chats with.

I began going to the gym which made me feel better and recently started classes which I really enjoy and chat to the others in the class.

Things are great again with my bf once we both knew what was going on. I met him through online dating. I'd recommend it.

I also chat to my family a lot more on the phone. A text or call most days. I visit them once or twice a month. I'm making an effort to go out with his mum too.

Being lonely can take over your life. I would definitely give Zuma a go. You'll feel great and it gives you a real confidence boost. Try making steps to find a snuggle buddy too. Big hugs xx

 

[jamiereid92]

awww joe!

If you lived closer id go to Zumba with you!!!

 

[jamiereid92]

awww joe!

If you lived closer id go to Zumba with you!!!

 

[Joe96]

Aww I've joined weight watchers hoping to get slimmer and get some confidence and start feeling better about myself that way!!

 

[Joe96]

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Yes, absolutely. Last year I picked up my life and moved to be with my boyfriend and begin working from home.

I lost most of my friends during this transition because of the distance, it was the first time being away from family, there were hiccups starting my business and I was so depressed I could barely get off the couch which caused arguments with my bf. He works nights and I was so unbearably lonely.

We had a huge bust up after 6 months and it helped me get motivated to get my act together.

Working from home is sorted now but I also work a couple of days a week renting a room in a hairdressers and I love having colleagues that I can have regular chats with.

I began going to the gym which made me feel better and recently started classes which I really enjoy and chat to the others in the class.

Things are great again with my bf once we both knew what was going on. I met him through online dating. I'd recommend it.

I also chat to my family a lot more on the phone. A text or call most days. I visit them once or twice a month. I'm making an effort to go out with his mum too.

Being lonely can take over your life. I would definitely give Zuma a go. You'll feel great and it gives you a real confidence boost. Try making steps to find a snuggle buddy too. Big hugs xx

Aww I think aswell a lot of my friends have gone yk uni so there loves have completley changed while I'm still in my local town! So sometimes feel abit stuck there!

 

[FlawlessBeauty]

Good for you joining weight watchers. Honestly I think making a bit of a change gives you a fantastic boost and gets you moving in the right direction x

 

[Kiki-uk]

I feel like this. I'm married but I have very few friends and nobody I can go on nights out with or have fun with. It really gets me down.
It was my birthday yesterday and I've done nothing. Having no friends is starting to really get to me. My married life is pretty boring and I feel like it's only getting worse! Maybe I'll try joining gym also and going to some classes,

 

[HairFairy69]

Aww I've joined weight watchers hoping to get slimmer and get some confidence and start feeling better about myself that way!!

Hi Jo, im near Darlington, we should add each other as Im Lonely Too, my kids moved away, I have a husband , but he is busy, Im starting hairdressing in September ,never done anything like this in my life, omg, scared is not the word, im sure Cumbria isn't that far from Me, I really could do with support too around my new venture of hairdressing, xx hope you are ok.xx

 

[Cotton]

I'm totally feeling this too. I've never really had many friends. I mean I had a group of friends at school but I've always had very bad anxiety and realise now they never really cared or even tried to understand, and simply left me out. I think this plays havoc with social skills as you get older as I now find it much harder to make friends as like people say everyone is settled down or already have their friendship groups.

I live with my boyfriend and although that is great (we met through tinder FYI so don't go knocking dating sites!!) he works unsociable hours so I spend a lot of evenings alone.

A lot of my clients I think... Ahhh I think we would make great friends. Or I have clients who I use to go to school with or work with and I think.. God why didn't I make more of an effort back then cos we could've been good friends. But I never know how to approach the subject of maybe hanging out because I haven't a clue if they are maybe thinking the same, or if I did saying anything they would think.. Whoah.. Weird/needy/I already have friends.

How did you find the gym classes went? I contemplate this but again I joined a running club at the start of the year thinking yeah I'll meet new people but everyone came with a friend already and run in their little cliques while I ran along on my own between groups of them so I eventually gave up!

 

[Joe96]

I'm totally feeling this too. I've never really had many friends. I mean I had a group of friends at school but I've always had very bad anxiety and realise now they never really cared or even tried to understand, and simply left me out. I think this plays havoc with social skills as you get older as I now find it much harder to make friends as like people say everyone is settled down or already have their friendship groups.

I live with my boyfriend and although that is great (we met through tinder FYI so don't go knocking dating sites!!) he works unsociable hours so I spend a lot of evenings alone.

A lot of my clients I think... Ahhh I think we would make great friends. Or I have clients who I use to go to school with or work with and I think.. God why didn't I make more of an effort back then cos we could've been good friends. But I never know how to approach the subject of maybe hanging out because I haven't a clue if they are maybe thinking the same, or if I did saying anything they would think.. Whoah.. Weird/needy/I already have friends.

How did you find the gym classes went? I contemplate this but again I joined a running club at the start of the year thinking yeah I'll meet new people but everyone came with a friend already and run in their little cliques while I ran along on my own between groups of them so I eventually gave up!

I never had massive friendship groups at school I've always kept myslef to myself and can disappear into a good book for hours, Dating sites depress me cos everyone is like sorry not my type I'm just like I know I'm not stick thin but for goodness sake stop being so shallow! Yeah I never hang out with any of my customers as I feel they always just talk at you and there not really bothered about you so no friendship opportunities there! I always think this time of year is a downer anyway as it's cold and your inside and just want to snuggle up, I always find winter lonely but I'm determined not just to watch tv when I'm in, on the plus side I'm reading more, ome of my customers is teaching m how to knit! And I'm upcycling clothes from the charity shop next door just for fun!