Having a vent

[SarLouise]

Hi everyone I'm feeling sorry for myself tonight after reading something on my Facebook. I just have to let it out! My friends who I worked with at my old company when I was training for my level 2 arranged a 30th birthday surprise for one of my best friends and they haven't even invited me. I saw a status that they are all tagged in going to her surprise night out and I can't believe not one of them bothered to ask me. It's really got me down. Now I know i work a few nights in a pub and they may of assumed I'm working but it doesn't hurt to ask there is such a thing as booking nights off? Please tell me if I'm over reacting. My friend who's 30th it is has arranged her own meal/night out in a couple of weeks and now I just feel really unwelcome in the group now, like I'll be left out on the night.
Please tell me if I'm over reacting.
I left the company over a year ago kept in close contact with my best friend who is 30 soon. And everyone kind of went there separate ways but really didn't think we had all drifted that much for no one to even bother mentioning that they was planning something for her. I don't know it's just really got me down. Thanks for reading sorry it's so long winded.

Sarah xo

 

[kellybeauty]

Hi sarah. I would ask out right why u haven't been invited to who ever has organised the event? I would feel the same. I am no longer on fb as hated all the gossip etc .
Xx

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[AcidPerm]

...Please tell me if I'm over reacting.
I left the company over a year ago kept in close contact with my best friend who is 30 soon. And everyone kind of went there separate ways but really didn't think we had all drifted that much for no one to even bother mentioning that they was planning something for her....

Sarah xo

There's probably no harm in asking one of them why you weren't included.

However, looking at it from the outside, you no longer work there and you drifted away from the rest of the group. Maybe the rest of them have kept in touch more and want it to be a small group outing?

Also, if I was organising a work related party, I wouldn't ordinarily consider inviting a former member of staff who had left more than a year previously.

As you say, you're still spending time celebrating the birthday with your friend. Surely that's what's really important here?

 

[FlawlessBeauty]

I agree with Haircutz, perhaps it's more of a work party.

Your friend has invited you to the celebration she has planned and knows about, so she obviously wants you there and you obviously want to be there, celebrating with her.

Ask the organiser why you weren't invited, but in a nice way and just mention that in future you'd love to be included. Maybe try to be more in touch if you're missing them.

Don't cut your nose off to spite your face. Go to the birthday meal and have a wonderful time xx

 

[SarLouise]

I see where you are all coming from. Only two of the girls still work at the salon the rest of us have left. We are closer than work colleagues like been on holiday together etc so I wouldn't really class it as a work do. Of course I'm still going to go to the meal as her birthday is the most important thing but just felt a bit put out that I wasn't included.

Sarah xo