Highlights on an 11 year old.

[MissLB]

I do part time mobile work, that I fit around my full time job (complete opposite profession) I left hairdressing just before I turned 21 I'd started my junior placement at a well known high street salon in my city when I was 16. Anyway I had a lady yesterday ask me to do full head highlights on herself and originally she wanted me to cut and restyle her 11 year old daughters hair, But then told me she wanted her daughter to have highlights all the way through by foil.

I dont agree with young teenagers having it done, let alone kids so I said I wouldnt do it and told her that it wouldn't, I mean if I was still at a salon that was reputable I know they would have said no too. But I've had people (partner and family) say im being silly as I've lost a client and money now, I just think what there trying to say is I should go against what I believe in and what I've been taught and do it!? and I think thats wrong I'm not doing this just to get money Im doing it because I'm passionate about hair.

Love to know what others opinions are on this?

 

[sunshineinme]

Hi I am not a hairdresser but I fully support and understand you! We should stick to our morals and be responsible in our jobs. If we- professionals, won't keep the standards in the industry who else will? Additionally I think the mother must surely be a little bit mad I can't understand people like her, I am not even trying to. Cheerio x

 

[Dennieanne]

HI, I agree, She's a child and does not need hi lights!!!! She shouldnt be worrying about stuff like that yet. I think 14 min to start doing stuff and thats only cause peer pressure at that age is the same as been 16 etc.

 

[eskimonailtech]

Who are you to say she doesnt need foils?

I find this very interesting. As therapists we have the right to refuse, but to say she doesn't "need" them is sad. Maybe she doesn't feel good about herself so her mom wants to treat her and help her feel more sophisticared?

I think refusing to do foils on young teenagers is a tad silly. What are we talking? 14? I was driving at 14.

 

[MissLB]

Children are children, I don't agree with turning children into mini adults this is why this country has a problem with teenager pregnancies because we allow our children to b "sexed" up it's bad enough other industries provide clothing, music, etc which is to too provocative for children and I find having treatments that are initially aimed at adults is aiding to this issue. As i have said before this goes against training I was given obviously everyone is entitled to there own opinion and do as they wish. But also not to mention all the chemicals that are in these products I don't agree or think its right a child's hair be subjected to it.

 

[MorganDazzle]

Who are you to say she doesnt need foils?

I find this very interesting. As therapists we have the right to refuse, but to say she doesn't "need" them is sad. Maybe she doesn't feel good about herself so her mom wants to treat her and help her feel more sophisticared?

I think refusing to do foils on young teenagers is a tad silly. What are we talking? 14? I was driving at 14.

Driving is illegal at 14. What kind of valid point is that??

Agree completely with OP - Children should be children. Society is allowing children to become adults too early, provocative clothing, music lyrics, make up aimed at children, any pro who carries out treatments aimed at adults on children is just adding to the growing number of children that feel they have to change themselves to be accepted.

I have 3 girls myself, and having grown up in an environment where i was allowed to be a mini adult, and then i fell pregnant at 18, i will be keeping them protected from the negative opinions of society and allowing them to be children for as long as i see fit!!

 

[MorganDazzle]

Children are children, I don't agree with turning children into mini adults this is why this country has a problem with teenager pregnancies because we allow our children to b "sexed" up it's bad enough other industries provide clothing, music, etc which is to too provocative for children and I find having treatments that are initially aimed at adults is aiding to this issue. As i have said before this goes against training I was given obviously everyone is entitled to there own opinion and do as they wish. But also not to mention all the chemicals that are in these products I don't agree or think its right a child's hair be subjected to it.

Couldnt agree more.

 

[Lux geek]

most insurance dosnt cover under 16years!! that is why most hairdressers wont do it!!
I think it down to the parents when it comes to this but the youngest client i have ever done is 15! i think it is unperfesional and any children i have wont be having that sort of thing done till they are 16.
there was an artical in the paper yesterday about a salon owner who spray tanned her 4 year old doughter!! if any of you have seen this!??
i nearly died of shock!!

 

[Zo Zo]

My daughter had highlights for the first time a few months ago. She's 11.

She's not exactly a tomboy but she's not exactly feminine either and couldn't care less about her appearance so it was actually my idea.

She gets bullied at school, not in a big way, but I am sure it's because she is a bit geeky looking. She is not naturally geeky looking, just as I said, takes no pride in her appearance at all, and also opts for sensible shoes, coats etc. So she's never been in the in crowd...

So yes, it was my idea. She has dirty blonde hair, she had a few streaks through the parting, hardly noticeable now I think about it. In fact I had forgotten til I saw this thread. But it's reminded me I'm going to give her a subtle brow shape before she goes back to school next week.

 

[Rhiannon1408]

When I was 13 I started having highlights, was nothing to do with peer pressure or wanting to be an 'adult' I just wanted nice hair!
My hair was the one part of me that I loved and it was my little treat to have it done.
Just thought I would throw that into the mix.
Rhiannon x

 

[Pinkprincess73]

My daughter was 13 when she started having highlights she too was a dark blonde & has long ultra thick hair it takes about 150 foils each time to colour it so we didn't take the decision lightly, she wears no makeup & dresses appropriately for her age, she wanted to be blonde & I dont see anything wrong with having professionally coloured hair rather than cheap brassy diy colours you see on many teenagers sporting,but that just my opinion, everyone is different

 

[MissLB]

I like that this has sparked up debate. Everyone has an opinion and is entitled to it. Thanks for ur input.

 

[jujojones]

Insurance permiting I would do it . Imo she prob going to colour her hair anyway - best doing it by a professional who can give aftercare etc than trying to use a box dye at home!!

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[eskimonailtech]

Driving is illegal at 14. What kind of valid point is that??

Agree completely with OP - Children should be children. Society is allowing children to become adults too early, provocative clothing, music lyrics, make up aimed at children, any pro who carries out treatments aimed at adults on children is just adding to the growing number of children that feel they have to change themselves to be accepted.

I have 3 girls myself, and having grown up in an environment where i was allowed to be a mini adult, and then i fell pregnant at 18, i will be keeping them protected from the negative opinions of society and allowing them to be children for as long as i see fit!!

Driving is legal at 14 here, THAT is my valid point, dear. But I suppose you aren't up to date on your laws for countries on the other side of the world.

I don't think it's our job as professionals to decide who is ready for what. Your insurance sets limits on this, and yes you have all the right in the world to refuse. But it's not your job to try and protect and parents anyone else's children.

I coloured my hair for the first time at 12, had l&p at 13, and foils at 14. I didn't do it to fit in, I was into EVERYTHING beauty, which would eventually turn me into the young salon owner I am today.

But let's not turn this into a parenting debate, that could get scary. :|

Bottom line: your insurance dictates what age you can treat, and if they're over that age, and you deny them, you may end up with some very peeved off people. But that's your right as a therapist!

 

[mally123pink]

Will I get told off if I tell you I had a tattoo when I was 14. I can remember putting the dreaded 'sun in' into my hair at about 13. I really wish my mum would have just took me to a salon instead of making me rebel! Naughty mummy lol x

 

[Zo Zo]

Hehehe I think I was only about 12 when I had a perm. Thought I looked like a blonde Kate Bush. Actually probably looked like a poodle. My parents were quite strict so I have no idea how I got their agreement. My best friends mum was a hairdresser, she probably spoke up for me

 

[ProperPrincess]

Who are you to say she doesnt need foils?

I find this very interesting. As therapists we have the right to refuse, but to say she doesn't "need" them is sad. Maybe she doesn't feel good about herself so her mom wants to treat her and help her feel more sophisticared?

I think refusing to do foils on young teenagers is a tad silly. What are we talking? 14? I was driving at 14.

here here. agree! i don't need to have pink hair. i don't need a tan. my little girl doesn't need a pink hearing aid a white one would do the same job. but she will feel better with pink one. if foils are something she wants to make her feel pretty or better. why stop her. in this day and age id be thankful she's asking for foils etc rather than the number for an std clinic lol

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[kitty78]

My daughter is 11 and i have foiled her hair before. My mum was also a hairdresser and i had perms from a very young age. My son wants his hair blonder as it's gone darker. I am considering it!

 

[AmeliaR]

I was 10/11 when i first got highlights just going to secondary school, yeh i was a little bit ginger and always wanted barbie blonde hair like the girl down the road! Ok a full head of highlights is not guna make me a bleach blonde but i loved it and feel special my mum would rather pay for me to go to the salon and get it done then buy rubbish stuff from tesco and ruin my hair

If you dont feel like you want to do it then fine! Personally i would be happy doing a girls first highliights shell be really excited! At the end of the day if you dont do it someone els will just because you say no doesnt mean shes not guna have them done. See the positive in the situation not the negative, can you not remeber when you was a teenager? And if you did/didnt get your hair done? At the end of the day its highlights!! Not a ****job! Shes still going to be 11 years old when your finished! X

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[persianista]

for goodness sake! hair grows, highlights are not in contact with the scalp. I fail to see what the problem is apart froma bit of sanctimonious opinionating.

11 is quite normal to have hihlights in this day and age.