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Keep at it Hun do not give up, my hubby done the exact same thing to me with the clippers and after a few skew wif hair cuts from myself with them I can now zoom over his hair, which I taught myself to do as I also was on a ladies nvq. I'm feeling pretty lost myself at the mo as I am underconfident after only having my nvq 2 for a little under a year and moving to a new area where there are very few salons and no1 looking for someone of my level, so I've decided in the mean time to do a bit of hair at home but like you I get so so nervous when I've done someone's hair and even when they've gone I think for days I'm gona get a phone call to complain :-/. Hang in there, your not alone in feeling like this if you look through the threads you'll see loads of the same Hun xx

Everyone goes through this, whether they are salon based or not. It's actually a positive thing, as it shows that you are striving to master your trade, and caring about what you are doing. All you need to do is keep trying and keep going. It really does get easier with practice.
 
Thanks guys, you're right.

I work in a Salon now full time as a junior. We've so rammed out busy 24-7 i never learn bugger all, never have chance to even stand and watch for 2 mins cos i'm constantly shampooing all day everyday. Plus some of the stylists are crap in my opinion. There's 2 that are brilliant hairdressers, the rest are so....how can i say it "trained 20 years ago, still cut and style like 20 years ago" lol

When i signed up at college, they basically told me how they can work wonders and **** cucumbers....after i'd done the course i'd be confident to do this that and the other...which is a load of crap. I'm not confident at all, i'm bricking it, constantly. They basically fed me a lot of crap and encouraged me to trot on mobile after i'd finished (cos that's what i told them i'd like to do)...yeah, as if i can go bloody mobile. I can't even do a one length without my hands shaking >.< We never do real people's hair until the actual assessment day, we use block heads (which are awful to be honest) i spend an hour unknotting the rat's nest you get on those fake hair heads).

I've looked at level 3 modules and can't really see anything in there (aside from colour correction, which i know how to do ...one of the only things the salon as taught me!) and the advanced cutting module, which would help with confidence. Oh i dunno, i'm really passionate about it and wanna be a good hairdresser, not one of these stylists who spend half their day blagging and bull****ting through each cut they and style they do (and yep we have one who is self employed at the salon who is very much like that). I wish i'd gone to an academy now to learn, but it was soooo expensive.

Speaking of dolls heads, you guys know where i can get anymore from on the cheap side, just for cutting? I've been buying them and it's costing a fortune for them all.

Thanks for the support. I'm sure i will look back on this one day and laugh, but right now i feel pretty low and unsure.

Kams xx


Kams, i totally understand you! It's like i've written this post! I know exactly what you're saying and what it means to give yourself a hard time and be dissapointed at the thought that you could have done it better, or it could have been better but you can't do it!
What i've realised is that...the more you do, the easier and less stressful it gets!
When i cut hair it makes me so nervous and even if they all know i'm training and they accept the fact that they have to spend hours while waiting for me to finish and there's a high risk of leaving with an ear off or with some gaps in their hair, i can't bear the idea that I can give them a bad haircut!
However, I've recently tried to convince myself that...I will give bad haircuts, I will do mistakes and I will have people complaining. It's unavoidable while you're training. So the only way to get over it is to be ready for when the day comes. ( dreading the first client to complain!).
I have days when I come home and I feel down and think 'what if I will never master hairdressing and be a rubbish one of the rest of my life??'. But then I look back and I realise how much I learn everyday...so it's impossible that everything will not add up in the end.
Don't give up....it's normal to be nervous, scared of your client, scared of not doing mistakes, not cutting them, not soaking them, scared of the conversations you have to make with them, of the fact that you won't see the sparkle in their eyes when they stand up and look at themselves in the mirror. But as well as widening your hairdressing skills, you have to work at self-development. And confidence.
And the great secret in hairdressing is to show that you know what you're doing. Or at least- PRETEND! And compliment your client...make them your friends first, they will be less likely to be nasty with you, look for that common ground.

About the dolly heads...they're a nightmare! BUT if you can do things on them, you can do them on the clients as well. It's often more difficult to do setting or foils on manechine heads.

What I hate is when hairdressers think they are bloomin awesome at their work, when in fact they're rubbish! I think it's better to doubt yourself, to try to improve, to care, rather than to think you know everything and you can do anybody! But....learn how to keep it inside, to deal with it in your own privacy and to disimulate in front of your client. At the end of the day, they come to have a proffesional advice, not to see somebody going with shaking hands close to their ears! :))
 
I'm going through a confidence crisis at the moment too, and it's reassuring to read that there are others in the same boat. I find that it takes just one negative experience to make me lose my confidence and forget about all the positives.
Ferrismouse your story has inspired me as I am a similar age and new to the industry, having worked in business in the past. Good to know it can be done!
 
Everyone goes through this, whether they are salon based or not. It's actually a positive thing, as it shows that you are striving to master your trade, and caring about what you are doing. All you need to do is keep trying and keep going. It really does get easier with practice.

Thanks for the reassurance I really hope so think I'm gona get myself on a few courses after Christmas and try and boost my confidence and also make myself more employable! Also to the OP someone gave me a fab tip the otherday which was get some blonde human hair and play around with colour and make notes of ones that were good etc xx
 
I'm going through a confidence crisis at the moment too, and it's reassuring to read that there are others in the same boat. I find that it takes just one negative experience to make me lose my confidence and forget about all the positives.
Ferrismouse your story has inspired me as I am a similar age and new to the industry, having worked in business in the past. Good to know it can be done!

Glad to be of help. You can do it & do it well. Just make sure you do right by you!
 
Hair is a vast subject. You cannot expect to know everything and be able to do everything without at least several years of training and practice.
Remember it used to be at least 5 years until you were called a stylist not that many years ago! Just keep learning and keep practicing. We all go through what you are experiencing.
 
Thanks for the reassurance I really hope so think I'm gona get myself on a few courses after Christmas and try and boost my confidence and also make myself more employable! Also to the OP someone gave me a fab tip the otherday which was get some blonde human hair and play around with colour and make notes of ones that were good etc xx

Just remember to add heat if hair is not attached to a human head!:lol:
 
A lot of my learning was done when we used to experiment in the salon sayin "what if we".

We had a few disasters, but we also had some innovations, and we all learnt a lot.
Just make sure that you learn something from every person and head of hair that you do. Try not to sit in a comfort zone.
I still learn every day. Styles change, techniques change and fashion changes constantly
 
A lot of my learning was done when we used to experiment in the salon sayin "what if we".

We had a few disasters, but we also had some innovations, and we all learnt a lot.
Just make sure that you learn something from every person and head of hair that you do. Try not to sit in a comfort zone.
I still learn every day. Styles change, techniques change and fashion changes constantly

Yeh I think the minute I'm out my comfort zone I panic! My main problem is short hair cuts it scares me I get all panicky although I get on and do it I absolutey die inside so think the cutting courses will be good for me! I know exactly what the problem is, I had to rush the last few assessments in as I was moving away with hubby in the army so never got the training in I should of on short hair it's the really short back and sides and quite long and sweepy on the top that get me :-/ but I was like that with styling short hair in training and now I love it! I care so much about how people will feel when they leave and love the thought of giving someone a confidence boost!! X
 
Ferrismouse
Sounds just like my story! Except my client that knocked my confidence was my own mother, said I made her look like she was wearing a wig!
A year later and I'm still a bag of nerves before I start cutting hair.
Can u give me the names of the videos u got yourself, would be very interested in getting some myself. Thank.
 
Ferrismouse my story is uncannily similar to yours too, lovely to hear of others in the same situation. I too did the Saks academy, salon for a moment, now home salon which I love! Debbieab the DVDs I have are Vidal Sassoons collection, tigi collection, simply Saks and I use myhairdresser.com which is fab and new tutorials are added weekly.
Kamio I'm sure that your reassured by now that we all feel like you and it's normal, however I wanted to add that I'm currently doing my nvq3 now one day a week at college and it is definitely the best thing I have done to ease my nervousness. I too was happy with colour correction as I've done training at the loreal academy for this, so at 1st I thought the only area I would be interested in was the advanced cutting..but it has helped me so much more than this, it has been reassuring to find the things I was worrying about I was actually doing pretty well. I was also worried about going to a college but our tutor is so passionate about the industry and has great experience from her previous employment that it's hard for her enthusiasm not to rub off on you,she teaches us a new advanced creative cut every week which is not only interesting but each week I feel a little more confident in my skills & excited to try out new things rather than being afraid and out of my comfort zone. Maybe the nvq3 might be what you need too!
 
Wow, this post has expanded quite a way since yesterday!

Just wanna say thank you for all the advice people have given me, on the boards and in PM. Especially to Ferrismouse for the long detailed PM and persianista for many previous PM's offering help and advice.

I think things just get on top of me sometimes and i stress myself out over it. I just love what i do and wanna be the best at it. I'm always on youtube watching stuff, as well as picking the brains of my tutors every week (bet they bloody sick of all the questions lol) I guess i'll just plod on and do my best. Thanks again to Ferrismouse, I'll certainly be doing what you advised in your PM and i'll be looking at the DVD's you mentioned to help with some of the cutting techniques i'm currently struggling with.

It's nice to know a lot of others feel this way, because i thought it was only me. Most people at college don't give a fig if they bollocks up someone's hair, they think because they are students it's acceptable to crop a load off, without first covering all the angles and thinking it through. I just don't think or work that way. The scary thought is, i'll have finished level 2 soon and if i'm still feeling like this, i dunno what to think lol just confused and thinking what the hell.

I'm sure it will all come together in the end, it's just confidence and nerves.

Thanks everyone, i really appreciate your advice and help.

Kams xx
 
We're all in the same boat; or have been. This site is amazing because it allows us to connect (at whatever level) and to speak freely without judgement (on most occasions). debbieab: I use the same vids at DebCam: Vidal sasson abc in cutting & colouring & simply Saks. I do feel the current economic climate is changing the industry & more & more people are opting to go to home-based & mobile hairdressers. I do feel for salon owners as they must be feeling the pressure. I work from home in the centre of Brighton & I am surrounded by high street salons & I find it reassuring that they choose to come to me. Kams: you already show that youdo give a damn & I have no doubt that you will have them queuing at the door for you!
 

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