Childless rants

[Topsy]

i get this all the time , ive all but lost my childhood friends because i just dont want to do the things they all do together

im 30 and my husband is 28 we do not want kids at all - our parents are finally getting the hint after 5 years

but people think i hate children - this is not the case i just dont want any !!!

 

[Mobile Manicure]

i get this all the time , ive all but lost my childhood friends because i just dont want to do the things they all do together

im 30 and my husband is 28 we do not want kids at all - our parents are finally getting the hint after 5 years

but people think i hate children - this is not the case i just dont want any !!!

I hate children. Always have. I don't understand what possessed me to have any. However, I love MY children. They are the only children I can happily spend time with. I can't even be bothered speaking to other children. I have to really make an effort, to be polite. I don't know why. It sounds cruel and horrible but its just the way it is. I love babies though. Before they can walk.

Think I've got all the makings of a dinner lady. (I'm not kidding. The ones at my daughters school are vile and obviously hate children and enjoy tormenting them). I'm not that bad, I wouldn't got out of my way to deliberately be mean.

Edit: hate is a bit severe. Maybe just "don't like".

 

[ch-ela]

I hate children. Always have. I don't understand what possessed me to have any. However, I love MY children. They are the only children I can happily spend time with. I can't even be bothered speaking to other children. I have to really make an effort, to be polite. I don't know why. It sounds cruel and horrible but its just the way it is. I love babies though. Before they can walk.

Think I've got all the makings of a dinner lady. (I'm not kidding. The ones at my daughters school are vile and obviously hate children and enjoy tormenting them). I'm not that bad, I wouldn't got out of my way to deliberately be mean.

Edit: hate is a bit severe. Maybe just "don't like".

Ditto.

 

[w1nnie]

Well I'm a 'dinner lady' on Friday's only, I prefer the snotty title 'midday supervisory assistant' and it's nice to interact with 5-8 year old's as they are so cheerful, and (are on my level). Its especially nice at Xmas time because they are so excited and create a lovely atmosphere, as my 2 boys are 15 and 23 they are somewhat bah humbug about Xmas now that they are older.

I think if you don't have children it can make you quite self centred, as they definitely make you view the world differently and puts everything into perspective. Definitely a good thing to have them if you can.

My sons are now helpful and it's a joy to me when my eldest comes home for the weekend, lovely to spend time with him and have sensible conversations, a meal and booze too .

 

[Mobile Manicure]

Do you think? I was quite happy being self-centered until I was 33. Maybe that's half the problem, I had them too late. I was too use to doing my own thing and not sacrificing my time or life for anyone. Now I'm resentful. I should have started at the magic age of 23. Then they could have been out of the house by now.

 

[w1nnie]

I was very very very resentful when my first was born. The extreme tiredness, the total lack of freedom, it was like a bullet in the head ! I enjoyed them when they could start to talk and walk, and by that time I had got used to giving up that previous life. When they start school you get some of your own time back, and when they reach 14 and they can stay in the house, looking after siblings, you can go out much more. It takes time, but in the long run it's fulfilling, and you are very proud that you have them.

 

[Spa Therapist]

I'm also 23 and married!
I know for a fact I'm not ready for kids yet, I questioned weather I wanted them at all because my partner is in the military so I'm 3 hours away from family and I would have no help so I though it would be tough when I do have children.
I'm much more relaxed about it now and I haven't put a 'time limit' on myself on when I should be having kids like I used to, when it happens it happens and I will know when it's right. X

I'm a military wife, live 4 hours away from my family and have an 18 month old. It's definitely hard! Especially as the journey takes 3 times as long with a baby and you need to charter a small plane for all the stuff you need to take with you! :lol:

 

[w1nnie]

I had no help whatsoever either as my mother didnt exist, my dad didn't know one end of a baby from the other, and MIL lived 2 hours drive away. I envied other young mums who had parents around nearby to help out. Because you sure as hell need it.

 

[Mobile Manicure]

I had no help whatsoever either as my mother didnt exist, my dad didn't know one end of a baby from the other, and MIL lived 2 hours drive away. I envied other young mums who had parents around nearby to help out. Because you sure as hell need it.

Same here. My parents are dead. My husbands mother can't drive so rendered useless.

 

[MrsSlim]

I'm a military wife, live 4 hours away from my family and have an 18 month old. It's definitely hard! Especially as the journey takes 3 times as long with a baby and you need to charter a small plane for all the stuff you need to take with you! :lol:

I can imagine how tough it is! :/
I have a puppy and he's hard enough as it is, he will do for now haha x

 

[sallyyummymummy]

I agree with all the comments saying enjoy your life as you are young & free. However saying that it is everyones personal choice when and if they have children. I have 2 friends who have no intention of ever having children and really don't like children. I have another friend who is my age (39) desperately wanting a baby but can't and has been refused ivf on the grounds that her partner has 2 teenage sons from a previous relationship. I have friends who had children young and those children are now grown up and my friends are starting living life again. I had my little lady at 37 & sometimes I wonder if I was too selfish and set in my ways and other days I love that I did all my partying and living while I was young and I now have an excuse not to go out every weekend lol. From the time I turned 30 I was told I ought to crack on then being told I was too old once I finally met mr right and now constantly being asked if I'm having anymore! You can't win either way!

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[Elaine Armani]

I've only turned 20, my decision for my future have been made, although I'm aware that as you grow your mentality changes but the truth is I'm not really a "family" person.
I like kids, they're cute and innocent and bloody annoying! But I definitely don't want any of my own, I'm not selfish, I'm the complete opposite but I don't think it's a must for each couple to have children, you go through 9 months of pain, discomfort and agony, raise them and eventually they go on with their own lives, sometimes some kids don't even keep in touch with their parents as soon as they're stable. I don't think it's worth it.
I would like to get married, IF I ever find anyone I can tolerate, but no kids.
And if I don't find someone I love selflessly then so be it, I can make myself happy, and to be completely honest, I am the happiest when I am alone.
I won't have kids, and get married because society says it's normal.
If being happily alone for the rest of your life is abnormal then that's exactly what I am

 

[BotoxNurse]

Like em but don't want one. My husband is my life. Every day I wake up and love him more and we have been married for 15 years. I love him too much to want to share him, and I have enough self awareness to know I am selfish and enjoy the luxuries of life that having children would stop. That aside, I do have a hereditary blood condition called G6PDD which means if I have a son they will have the active disease and if I have a daughter they will pass it on to their children. I have been tested and am the last one in my family to carry the active gene, so if I don't have children it stops here. Additionally when I was a student nurse 25 years ago I saw THE most horrific births ever to the point my principal removed me from my obstetrics training. Additionally I am the only person I know who has never had a near miss! Something is telling me my life is meant to be surrounded by beautiful things and leave me to spoil and love other people's little ones.

 

[virtues2011]

I could eat a whole one. Easily.

I don't like teenagers either. I was married and had my daughter at 23. I'm a fast learner I never did it again.

Babies are easier to look after in my eyes. .. Once they start talking however...FORGET IT.

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[Topsy]

Botox nurse that is such a lovely post ❤️

 

[BotoxNurse]

Botox nurse that is such a lovely post ❤️

Thankyou x

 

[persianista]

I like my fur-kids. If it ain't got four legs and fur, it doesn't really do it for me.
I too love my well ordered, peaceful life.

 

[Mobile Manicure]

And just to point out that tonight my husband and I have fallen out because the kids have been bickering and arguing. I'm sick to death of it as I'm surrounded by it all week while he happily works away. I'm being accused of being too hard on them by wanting to send them to bed at 9pm.

So instead I've gone to bed. He can put up with them if he wants them to stay up. Hope he enjoys himself. We've not had dinner yet (kids have) so he can make himself a crumpet and sit on it.

Don't have kids.

 

[lila22]

And just to point out that tonight my husband and I have fallen out because the kids have been bickering and arguing. I'm sick to death of it as I'm surrounded by it all week while he happily works away. I'm being accused of being too hard on them by wanting to send them to bed at 9pm.

So instead I've gone to bed. He can put up with them if he wants them to stay up. Hope he enjoys himself. We've not had dinner yet (kids have) so he can make himself a crumpet and sit on it.

Don't have kids.

Oh dear!! Not good! Hope your ok xx

 

[Mobile Manicure]

Oh dear!! Not good! Hope your ok xx

Yes fine thanks. Weekend is ruined. However Winnie has had me in hysterics already on the older girls thread. I knew coming on here would cheer me up.