Intimate waxing ....help!

[kylieb]

Well the way you worded it 'before' you edited it sounded a bit like EVERYONE who does waxing SHOULD be willing to do intimate waxing and the way i see... it's my (or whoever we're talking about) personal/professional preferance, and DEFINATELY should have been clarified during the interview or in the job descripton.

I know most peeps are happy to do it but im sure there are MANY that dont!

Thank you hun i'm glad YOU understand! And i think not wanting to do a treatment and not being able to enjoy doing it is a valid reason.
:hug:

 

[kylieb]

If they didn't make it clear at the interview that you would be expected to do Intimate Waxing, then it's outrageous to expect you to do so. On the other hand though, you should have made it clear where you stand on the subject and maybe you need to think about whether the beauty game is for you. xxx

Im really confused at the bit where you have put 'maybe the beauty game isnt for you' ??? So just because i choose to dislike one treatment and not want to do it then i better give up my 3 years of training for it?. Dont be silly , i think this was a real daft thing to say.

 

[kylieb]

Agreed ...there is absolutely no reason why any therapist should not undertake treatments that he/she is not willing to provide.

What 1you will tend to find however is as you have Amber that attitudes do change once you get into proceedures...the first female Brazilian is daunting enough..the first male intimate wax another psychological hurdle to go through and so on.

However it is important to stop when you finally go outside of your comfort zone

Thank you collin. You are always so good at giving advice! :hug:

 

[Kim Lawless]

Im really confused at the bit where you have put 'maybe the beauty game isnt for you' ??? So just because i choose to dislike one treatment and not want to do it then i better give up my 3 years of training for it?. Dont be silly , i think this was a real daft thing to say.

That's me told then.......

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend. My point was that surely at some stage during your training, it occured to you, or it was mentioned by your tutor that Intimate Waxing would probably be a requirement. That is after all a salon treatment.

If you re-read my original answer, I was defending you.
You seemd to overlook that.

 

[collin]

As with anything in life...always stay within your comfort zone...what you will find is that gradually this zone will expand...it just takes time ,understanding and patience :hug:

 

[Zo Zo]

That's me told then.......

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend. My point was that surely at some stage during your training, it occured to you, or it was mentioned by your tutor that Intimate Waxing would probably be a requirement. That is after all a salon treatment.

If you re-read my original answer, I was defending you.
You seemd to overlook that.

Kim, not wishing to get into fisticuffs over this, but intimate waxing is not a compulsory part of beauty training, and many salons don't offer it.

 

[joe90]

I can understand your apprehension at intimite waxing and to be honest when I first started intimite waxing on both men and women I was crapping myself. It doesn't take too many waxes though to just get over the body part you are waxing and get on with the job.

As long as you are a confident and proficient waxer, when you have done a few you will be well away.

However, if you really do feel that uncomfortable with it, then you must mention this to your employer as soon as you can.

 

[kylieb]

That's me told then.......

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend. My point was that surely at some stage during your training, it occured to you, or it was mentioned by your tutor that Intimate Waxing would probably be a requirement. That is after all a salon treatment.

If you re-read my original answer, I was defending you.
You seemd to overlook that.

This was mentioned in my training that it's an optional course to take after completing my level 2. My tutor has been doing Beauty Therapy for 30 odd years and even she doesnt like the thought of doing it and still hasnt took the course. There are lots of other treatments that are ofered by salons but it doesnt mean everyone is qualified in them. After all there isnt anything that i dont want to train in,appart from this. So i think I will talk to the manager and see what he says. I just really dont want to be stuck doing a treatment that i dont enjoy and thats going to make me feel awkward xxx

 

[gillian w]

This is a difficult one because they obviously have the treatment listed,will you be the only person working at one time or will there be a few of you.Are you taking someone elses place that has been doing intimate waxing.

If you look at it from the managers point of view he is going to be employing someone that is not going to be doing one of the treatments that is possibly a very popular one,maybe your refusal will bring into question whether he will want to hire you anymore.

I would go on the course and then decide whether you can then do the intimate waxing.If you are able get hold of a copy of Whole Ball of wax to watch.It really does put things into perspective.

If after the course you still find you really can't do it then at least you will have tried,whats the worst that can happen .....you'll see a ****** and a penis which 100% of us have got one or the other.

I do think that it is going to be difficult to avoid intimate waxing especially on woman nowadays it is becoming so popular.This may be a serious choice you are going to have to make as it may affect what jobs are open to you now and in the future.Sometimes you do have to step outside your comfort zone.

There are few jobs out there for many therapists.Being unable or unwilling to do just one treatment could mean the difference between getting a job or not.

 

[tog]

Also at some time in the future you could be working for yourself, charging loadsamoney for this service and thanking your lucky stars that your employer sent you on this course and paid for it too . . .

 

[fing a' ling]

hi i have just trained in this and it is performed in a very proffesional way,i have already done 6 boyzillions also known as crack sac and back, and it was fine but if you are uncomfortable you must speak upx

 

[MINKUS]

Do let us know the outcome and how you get on:hug:

i may have to do a poll on how many experienced waxers offer the bs&c lol:green:

here's a thread i did a while back !

http://www.salongeek.com/skin-geek/77739-can-you-say-i-do-male-waxing-if-you-dont-offer-bs-c.html

 

[kylieb]

Do let us know the outcome and how you get on:hug:

i may have to do a poll on how many experienced waxers offer the bs&c lol:green:

I will let you know hun.I will go and see the manager tomorrow and have a word with him. I wont be the only therapist there and hes already said he'd take away treatments I didnt like, not that there were any i dont like,apart from this. So he seems understanding and i already have the job.
Thanks for your support huni :hug: xxx

 

[Katelisa]

Also at some time in the future you could be working for yourself, charging loadsamoney for this service and thanking your lucky stars that your employer sent you on this course and paid for it too . . .

my sentiments exactly!
my main business is intimate waxing.

Have you actually ever tried doing it hun?!
IMO until you have a go, you cant say you don't like/want to do it.
You might try it and think "what was the fuss about?" like i think alot of people do.

(oh, and also, if you click the icon next to the quote button, you can 'multi quote' just click on all the people you want to quote, then click new reply, and they will all come up in one post. instead of you doing a new post for each quote!)

 

[Kim Lawless]

Kim, not wishing to get into fisticuffs over this, but intimate waxing is not a compulsory part of beauty training, and many salons don't offer it.

I agree Zoe but I'm surprised that it was never mentioned at college at some time during the training.

As I said in my original reply, I'm of the opinion that nobody should be forced to do Intimate Waxing.

I take on board what you're saying though. xxx

 

[kylieb]

Hi ladies, just to let you all know I did speak to the manager and explained that i wasnt too keen on the intimate waxing course for the time being. I said as there are other therapists there and if the clients didnt mind, would he mind if i watched a few first. At least then i can find out for myself that i am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill and then i can go and do the course.
He was so understanding and reasured me that would be fine and also that he didnt want me to do anything i feel uncomfortable with.
Thank you all for your great advice!!
xxxx

 

[Katelisa]

thats great hun! at least you can see what its all about now!! :green:

 

[collin]

Hi ladies, just to let you all know I did speak to the manager and explained that i wasnt too keen on the intimate waxing course for the time being. I said as there are other therapists there and if the clients didnt mind, would he mind if i watched a few first. At least then i can find out for myself that i am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill and then i can go and do the course.
He was so understanding and reassured me that would be fine and also that he didn't want me to do anything i feel uncomfortable with.
Thank you all for your great advice!!
xxxx

Very well done for having the guts to confront this issue head on with your employer...always is the best way to deal with these sorts of issues.

So just take things slowly,you have a sympathetic employer which always helps, sit in on the next male treatment and who knows...it might-en not be to long before you want to have a go yourself.

Its simply a case of facing each phobia as it comes and not to move to quickly forwrd...in other words ..dont force it..it will ..(or not) come naturally when you are good and ready

Good luck with your new employer and do let us know if you ever do get stuck in :hug:

 

[MINKUS]

Hi ladies, just to let you all know I did speak to the manager and explained that i wasnt too keen on the intimate waxing course for the time being. I said as there are other therapists there and if the clients didnt mind, would he mind if i watched a few first. At least then i can find out for myself that i am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill and then i can go and do the course.
He was so understanding and reasured me that would be fine and also that he didnt want me to do anything i feel uncomfortable with.
Thank you all for your great advice!!
xxxx

smart cookie:hug:

Amb x

 

[Kim Lawless]

Good girl. Better out than in. xxx